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The moments when I am most impressed by masculinity

The moments when I am most impressed by masculinity are when I see men being willing to step into all sides of themselves. ⁣ ⁣ When I watch their tears. ⁣ ⁣ When I hear what they are afraid of. ⁣ ⁣ It makes an entire part of my body come online and say: this is brave. This is a man I can trust. This

The story of my body

Here is the scar from when I had a cyst removed, and was too indignant to stay out of the sun for the summer⁣ ⁣ Here are the lead spots: two of them, one in my hand and one on my knee, from being stabbed with a pencil in grade school⁣ ⁣ Here are the pores the magazines said were too big. If only I

I never had good relationships with women

I never had good relationships with women. I changed my best friend every year. My friendships were based around how we related to boys, and getting boys to like us, and not liking all the other girls.⁣ ⁣ As an adult, I got to avoid deeper friendships with women because I changed locations so many times. I changed schools and I traveled around the world

You have never been too much

You have never been too much. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too sad, too emotional, too grief-stricken. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too excited or too childlike or too loud. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too dramatic or moody or quiet. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too talkative. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too fat, or too thin. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ You were never too outspoken,

“I don’t want to” is the only reason you need for saying no to anything, ever

“I don’t want to” is the only reason you ever need for saying no to anything, ever. ⁣ ⁣ Same with: “I’m not interested. I don’t like it. I changed my mind. No. Never. I don’t like you. Please stop talking to me.”⁣ ⁣ If we were raised female it can be especially hard to say these things. Because it is ingrained in us to

Normalizing pubic hair

Just wanting to normalize a little body hair  💁🏼‍♀️⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I received about 10 women’s magazines/month as a teenager. All of them talked about shaving or waxing or using creams – getting rid of hair on the bikini line especially was seen as tidy, and necessary. ⁣ ⁣⁣ As a teenager, I could not figure out for the life of me what to do with

We had just finished doing a practice when I heard him sobbing

We had just finished doing a practice when I heard him sobbing.⁣ ⁣ “Can you turn the camera so I can see you?” I asked, gently. ⁣ ⁣ “Do I have to?” He asked, reluctantly. ⁣ ⁣ “No,” I said, “If it feels safer to not, you can keep it there. But I think it might be important to let another person witness you.”⁣ ⁣

I’m fucking tired of the world telling me I can’t have pleasure

I’m fucking tired of the world telling me I can’t have pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t eat all my meals naked, moaning as flavors enter my mouth. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t go without a bra in public. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t dance frequently and as badly as I want. ⁣ ⁣ The world says pleasure with ourselves should be hidden and shameful.

I am protesting

This is from a social media post that I shared in May 2019. The post went viral and then was taken down: Hey Facebook/IG. I noticed your community guidelines are awfully specific about when my naked body is appropriate and when it is not. ⁣ ⁣ I noticed that my nipples are appropriate when they are an act of protest, specifically.⁣ ⁣ I also noticed