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Trusting Life

What I learned from a month of pleasure

⁣A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to
Posted September 6, 2019
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Sex

Queen of Blowjobs

I used to hate giving head. ⁣ ⁣ It felt like this annoying thing I was obligated to do, even though I didn’t want to. I rolled my eyes with my friends about how it was this thing men expected from us. ⁣ ⁣ I had experiences where guys shoved my head down. I often did it while thinking the whole time about how I
Posted September 4, 2019
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Trusting Life

Why taking risks is so important

I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. ⁣ When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. ⁣ ⁣ It’s
Posted September 2, 2019
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Trusting Life

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I
Posted August 31, 2019
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Self Love

Integrating my inner child

When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt
Posted August 30, 2019
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Self Love

Dress up for yourself

Your pleasure begins with you. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When you wear your favorite
Posted August 25, 2019
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Self Love

I love you, Body

I love you, body. ⁣ ⁣ I love that you tell me how you are feeling. I love listening to you. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your little lines and marks. I love the stories that you hold. ⁣ ⁣ I love your softness and your squishiness and your hardness and your strength. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your curves. The hair that
Posted August 19, 2019
1 min read
Blood

I get angry that there are teenage girls who think their bodies are untouchable

I do this because it still makes people angry that I do it. ⁣ ⁣ They get angry that I’m touching my own body and claiming it as beautiful. ⁣ ⁣ They are uncomfortable with the wildness, the grossness, the power… of womxn and our bodies. ⁣ ⁣ They label it “crazy” and “disgusting.” They dedicate entire podcast episodes to it, entire articles and blog
Posted August 18, 2019
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Trusting Life

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣
Posted August 14, 2019
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Sex

I used to be silent during sex

I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I did
Posted August 6, 2019
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