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What I learned from a month of pleasure

⁣A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to

Queen of Blowjobs

I used to hate giving head. ⁣ ⁣ It felt like this annoying thing I was obligated to do, even though I didn’t want to. I rolled my eyes with my friends about how it was this thing men expected from us. ⁣ ⁣ I had experiences where guys shoved my head down. I often did it while thinking the whole time about how I

Why taking risks is so important

I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. ⁣ When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. ⁣ ⁣ It’s

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I

Integrating my inner child

When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt

Dress up for yourself

Your pleasure begins with you. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When you wear your favorite

I love you, Body

I love you, body. ⁣ ⁣ I love that you tell me how you are feeling. I love listening to you. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your little lines and marks. I love the stories that you hold. ⁣ ⁣ I love your softness and your squishiness and your hardness and your strength. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your curves. The hair that

I get angry that there are teenage girls who think their bodies are untouchable

I do this because it still makes people angry that I do it. ⁣ ⁣ They get angry that I’m touching my own body and claiming it as beautiful. ⁣ ⁣ They are uncomfortable with the wildness, the grossness, the power… of womxn and our bodies. ⁣ ⁣ They label it “crazy” and “disgusting.” They dedicate entire podcast episodes to it, entire articles and blog

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣

I used to be silent during sex

I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I did