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“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣

I used to be silent during sex

I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I did

Communicating with nature

Something that I’ve done ever since I was little was run to nature whenever I felt sad. ⁣ ⁣ Usually I sit on a rock, or at the base of a tree, or near water (or if I get really lucky like today, all three at once). ⁣ ⁣ We talk to one another but not in a way that feels like humans speaking. It

All my life I’ve been touched in ways that weren’t about my pleasure

All my life I’ve been touched in ways that weren’t about my pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ I always felt like men were touching me because they wanted me to be ready for sex. The goal of touch was for me to finally be wet so that then they could have sex with me (if they decided to wait that long). ⁣ ⁣ Even when I had

Connecting with pussy

It would make sense if you didn’t feel a connection to your pussy at all.⁣ ⁣ If you were raised female, you’ve probably had a lifetime of completely ignoring what this area of your body really wants, really feels, really thinks.⁣ ⁣ We often have experienced endless crossing of our boundaries, whether violent or subtle -⁣ ⁣ if we were even confident enough or taught

Every moment of my life is filled with pleasure

Every moment of my life is filled with pleasure.⁣ ⁣ Pleasure can be found in everything. There’s pleasure in the beauty of nature, in good food, in love – of course.⁣ ⁣ But I also find pleasure in everything falling apart, in everything going wrong, in things like death and grief and everything not being perfect.⁣ ⁣ Once, I had an energetic orgasm just from

I started crying and the sky started pouring in the darkness

I started crying and the sky started pouring in the darkness⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I opened up my entire heart. I said, these are all the ways you trigger me.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I said, these are all the ways men have hurt me, have disappointed me. These are the ways I haven’t fully let people in, ever. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ These are the secrets I haven’t told anyone. ⁣⁣

Masculine and feminine penetration

The masculine penetrates through the genitals. That’s where the feminine receives.⁣ ⁣ The feminine penetrates through the heart. That’s where the masculine receives.⁣ ⁣ Forcing a man to open up emotionally before he’s ready can feel similar to a woman being entered before she’s dripping wet and fully ready.⁣ ⁣ And the lasting effects are the same. I see so many women who are completely

You can be all things at once

You can be all things at once. ⁣ ⁣ The same way the streets are filled with cigarette butts and pee stains and flowers and trees so wide they make you stop in your tracks in awe of life -⁣ ⁣ You can be in pleasure from anger. In pleasure from grief. In pleasure from disgust. ⁣ ⁣ These aren’t bad emotions. They are a

It is safe

It is safe to make sounds. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to be loved. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to express your rage. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel safe. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel joy. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to receive. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to squeal. ⁣ ⁣ It is