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Men

Older men are not allowed to wake up

This may not fit the popular narrative, but older men are some of the most dramatically underserved parts of our population. I see this pattern often where a man has been very successful in his career. And then he reaches a point where he realizes there must be something more. He realizes he actually isn’t that happy in his marriage/dating life. That his work was
Posted March 12, 2021
4 mins read
Men, Relationships

Your partner is not the one who needs to do their work

It is never your partner who just needs to do their work. It is a big red flag for me when I hear someone say, “My partner does xyz, and they just need to change.” The partner you attract is always a reflection of you. Something in you is always mirroring back this part of them. I can already hear people saying “but what about
Posted March 11, 2021
4 mins read
Emotions, Relationships

Leaning In While Fighting and the Urge to Run Away

Occasionally, when Jordan and I are fighting, I have the urge to go sleep on the living room floor. It always happens during a fight when my ego is especially wounded, where something he said touched something really deep And a part of me wants to win, to make him hurt too, to “show him,” and to sleep in the other room. Or if it
Posted March 1, 2021
3 mins read
Desire, Self Love

Hotel room transmission part 1: feeling the truth, body love, & full desire

I was supposed to arrive here last night. I had booked three nights. At a luxury hotel, quite close to my apartment in Vancouver. Jordan and I have been doing this during Covid to have space from one another. There is much to say about the benefits of solo hotel stays; I might make a video about that tomorrow. I was supposed to check in
Posted February 25, 2021
10 mins read
Blood

When menstrual blood on my face went viral on the internet

Two years ago, this photo went very, very, very viral on the internet. I had been taking photos with my blood on my face every month for almost a year. The first one was just for fun, to encourage people to connect more with their menstrual blood. And then when people were soo bothered by it (I don’t know why I was shocked by this,
Posted February 22, 2021
4 mins read
Men, Poems, Sex

The magic of a slow blowjob

Let me tell you about the sweetness Of soft, nourishing, and tender love Of climbing into bed In early evening, just after sunset And winding skin together Of whispers about the future Excitement Of climbing on top, body pressed against body Holding his gaze And saying you are the best man I know.   Let me tell you about the magic of a slow blowjob.
Posted February 20, 2021
3 mins read
Emotions

You Don’t “Have” Anxiety

You don’t “have” anxiety. Anxiety is something that you *feel* because of past experiences in your life and the way you learned to respond. It also tends to be the result of built-up stored emotion. Anxiety is not something that is happening to you. It is not attached to you like a thing you cannot control. The way we speak about things matters. The first
Posted February 19, 2021
3 mins read
Trusting Life

10 Things I’ve Learned About Money That May Surprise, Disgust, & Delight You

In 2019, I made a conscious decision to start working on the beliefs I held around money. The first year of my business had been super inconsistent. I had $0 months and $6k months, and I never knew which one would happen. I had money, but I was always stressed about it. I wouldn’t look at my credit card statement or my bank account balance
Posted February 17, 2021
20 mins read
Poems

there is no word

There is no word for the way You would feel When watching a 30-foot wave crash to shore   There is no word for standing at the top of a mountain The air quiet No humans around your existence   There is no word For way it might land in your body To witness the messy, gory Primal Birth of a child   There is
Posted February 8, 2021
2 mins read
Self Love

The Fitness World is Built to Disconnect You From Your Body

One time, I worked for a few months at a gym. As a personal trainer. It is one of the very few times in my life where I’ve had a “boss.” My boss was a man named Cedric. Personal training was a sales position, and Cedric taught me how to sell. This meant that I had to walk up to people in the gym and
Posted February 1, 2021
10 mins read