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5 surprising things that can hold you back from getting what you want

We’re all walking around with past experiences stored in our bodies. These past experiences dictate pretty much everything about your life: the way you see things, the stories you create in your mind, and the actions you do and don’t decide to take. The trouble is, most of us don’t know what we’re holding. If that’s the case, you’re basically letting things other people have

What the life of two sex & relationship coaches is really like under quarantine

Jordan and I started quarantining during the third week of March. The weekend before everyone started staying in their homes, we went out to dinner. “Right, we’re not supposed to do that,” the waiter said, winking, as he held out his hand to shake, and Jordan took it and I didn’t. Two days after that, it was like an entirely different world. My friends had

Doubting Your Relationship? 6 Simple Questions to Ask Yourself

Do you often question whether you’re demanding too much from your partner? Do you wonder if you should be better at loving them the way they already are? Do you spend a lot of time thinking that you just need to work through more of your own stuff, and that they’re teaching you good lessons? Something that can be very, very tricky, particularly for self-aware

Pleasure is your birthright & this is why it matters

Your pleasure matters. Your pleasure has always mattered. Your sex life will never be at its peak. Your capacity for pleasure can always be bigger. And that is one of the biggest gifts of life. The pleasure of women has been demonized for centuries. That’s why it can feel scary to wear whatever you want, to call attention to yourself, to say no to a

The ultimate guide to processing emotions in a healthy way

— Heal Your Wounding with Men is now open for registration!! Find out more here. Have you ever felt so full of emotion that you didn’t know what to do, found yourself repeating the same emotional patterns over and over again, or been frustrated that analyzing your feelings didn’t work for you? If so, it’s not your fault. When most people talk about emotion, they

Sometimes I think about how women were considered property not even 200 years ago

Sometimes I think about how women were considered property not even 200 years ago Sometimes I think about the way that lives in my body and in the messages I’ve been taught by people older than me Sometimes I think about how in 1973 women still couldn’t open a credit card And I think about the way women struggle with money, feel shame about not

What to do if sex with your ex was better than sex with your current partner

— Heal Your Wounding with Men is now open for registration!! Find out more here. Are you spending a lot of time wistfully remembering that incredible sex you and your ex had? Are you feeling like no one is ever going to touch you that way again? Are you silently bemoaning the fact that your current partner is just not as good? One of the

Are you meant to be alone? 6 signs you’re blocking a new relationship

I’ll say it right off the bat: I don’t think anyone is “meant” to be alone. There are absolutely people who truly thrive being single. These people are single not because they’re incapable of being in a relationship, but because they’ve realized common relationship setups don’t make them happy. They might prefer to have several sexual partners (or not), have a wide social network, and

It’s not your fault: how past sexual experiences limit your sex life today

When I was twenty, a boy came inside of me, without a condom on, without asking. “Sorry, I couldn’t help it,” he said casually, as he rolled over. I didn’t say a word. I’m sure I smiled nicely as I got up and went to the bathroom. I remember looking at clippings of his hair in the sink and how filthy the bathroom was. I

This is how to feel safe embodying your feminine energy

In today’s society, particularly with the (much-needed) rise of feminism, most women are taught the narrative that we can do everything men can do – plus backwards, bleeding, and in high heels. And yet… there are many women waking up to the fact that, while it’s necessary to have equal rights and equal opportunities to men… inhabiting our masculine energy most of the time is