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They will tell you you are unclean

They will tell you you are unclean, that your blood should not be talked about. ⁣ ⁣ They will tell you to hide your body. That your body is inherently flawed, that all its lines and bumps and hairs need to be fixed. ⁣ ⁣ They will tell you to be quieter. That you are just looking for attention, that you don’t know enough. ⁣

Anger toward the patriarchy vs anger toward men

I really want women to understand that our anger toward the patriarchy/our society is valid. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And that it is not the same as our anger toward men. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It is so valid to be hurt that we have grown up in a society that has told us we are too much or not enough, that has shut our bodies and our power

Why it hurts to be angry toward men

“Men respond really well to condescension,” she said, laughing. ⁣ ⁣ I looked at her, my body frozen. ⁣ ⁣ She was a sex educator. Someone who teaches classes on relating to one another allll the time. ⁣ ⁣ I know where this belief comes from. How it’s rooted in a lifetime of feeling lesser than, of not knowing any other way to feel powerful.

What I learned from a month of pleasure

WHAT I LEARNED FROM A MONTH OF PLEASURE⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent WAY MORE MONEY than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite

Queen of Blowjobs

I used to hate giving head. ⁣ ⁣ It felt like this annoying thing I was obligated to do, even though I didn’t want to. I rolled my eyes with my friends about how it was this thing men expected from us. ⁣ ⁣ I had experiences where guys shoved my head down. I often did it while thinking the whole time about how I

Why taking risks is so important

I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. ⁣ When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. ⁣ ⁣ It’s

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I

Integrating your inner child

When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt

Lies I used to tell myself about pleasure and business and life

LIES I USED TO TELL MYSELF:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That it didn’t matter if my partner wasn’t working on himself and that I could be the one to initiate him into it⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That I had to work hours a day in order to make money ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That I had to restrict the amount of pleasurable things I allowed myself (yummy food, expensive

Dress up for yourself

Your pleasure begins with you. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When you wear your favorite