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Doubting Your Relationship? 6 Simple Questions to Ask Yourself

Do you often question whether you’re demanding too much from your partner? Do you wonder if you should be better at loving them the way they already are? Do you spend a lot of time thinking that you just need to work through more of your own stuff, and that they’re teaching you good lessons? Something that can be very, very tricky, particularly for self-aware

Pleasure is your birthright & this is why it matters

Your pleasure matters. Your pleasure has always mattered. Your sex life will never be at its peak. Your capacity for pleasure can always be bigger. And that is one of the biggest gifts of life. The pleasure of women has been demonized for centuries. That’s why it can feel scary to wear whatever you want, to call attention to yourself, to say no to a

The ultimate guide to processing emotions in a healthy way

Have you ever felt so full of emotion that you didn’t know what to do, found yourself repeating the same emotional patterns over and over again, or been frustrated that analyzing your feelings didn’t work for you? If so, it’s not your fault. When most people talk about emotion, they miss the most important piece. And without addressing it, your emotions can never fully shift.

Sometimes I think about how women were considered property not even 200 years ago

Sometimes I think about how women were considered property not even 200 years ago Sometimes I think about the way that lives in my body and in the messages I’ve been taught by people older than me Sometimes I think about how in 1973 women still couldn’t open a credit card And I think about the way women struggle with money, feel shame about not

What to do if sex with your ex was better than sex with your current partner

Are you spending a lot of time wistfully remembering that incredible sex you and your ex had? Are you feeling like no one is ever going to touch you that way again? Are you silently bemoaning the fact that your current partner is just not as good? One of the many negative side effects of women not being taught that our bodies belong to us,

Are you meant to be alone? 6 signs you’re blocking a new relationship

I’ll say it right off the bat: I don’t think anyone is “meant” to be alone. There are absolutely people who truly thrive being single. These people are single not because they’re incapable of being in a relationship, but because they’ve realized common relationship setups don’t make them happy. They might prefer to have several sexual partners (or not), have a wide social network, and

It’s not your fault: how past sexual experiences limit your sex life today

When I was twenty, a boy came inside of me, without a condom on, without asking. “Sorry, I couldn’t help it,” he said casually, as he rolled over. I didn’t say a word. I’m sure I smiled nicely as I got up and went to the bathroom. I remember looking at clippings of his hair in the sink and how filthy the bathroom was. I

This is how to feel safe embodying your feminine energy

In today’s society, particularly with the (much-needed) rise of feminism, most women are taught the narrative that we can do everything men can do – plus backwards, bleeding, and in high heels. And yet… there are many women waking up to the fact that, while it’s necessary to have equal rights and equal opportunities to men… inhabiting our masculine energy most of the time is

To the masculine: she just wants to know that she can trust you

One of the most important roles of the feminine is to call out and question the masculine. In a high-polarity relationship, the masculine leads. He* is direct, logical, and steady. He is a provider, he shows up fully, and he helps the feminine live her best life possible. And sometimes he misses his own blind spots. The feminine is intuitive, feeling. She will immediately sense