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Tell your partner when you self-pleasure. Not because he owns your body, but because you do

Tell your partner when you self-pleasure Not because he owns your body, but because you do.   Touch yourself slowly, deeply, lovingly Have long orgasms, and quick ones Spend hours, spend seconds Soak your sheets.   Say, I’m going to self pleasure in the other room, now Not because I don’t love you but because I love myself, and sometimes I want to remind myself

8 ways to fight better with your partner

I often hear this narrative – even from other relationship coaches – that it’s “normal” to fight with our partners in a way where we feel resentful, notice everything that’s wrong with them, and yell at one another. I feel annoyed by this, because while this might be typical, it’s not useful, and it’s not necessary. Having someone yell at you means their anger is

How to be the Queen of Sex: 7 ways to get everything you want & drive your partner wild

Want to feel such magnificent pleasure that you feel absolutely unstoppable? Want to scream incredibly loudly and not care if your neighbors hear you? Want your boyfriend to feel like he can’t keep his hands off of you and not even know why – even years into your relationship? Want your sex life to only get better over time? Want to desire sex wayyy more

There is wisdom in your anger – this is how you process it

There is wisdom in your anger. We get taught not to acknowledge anger, not to express it. We grow up hearing, “Don’t get angry, it’s unattractive. Be nice, be quiet, be accommodating. Calm down, you’re overreacting.” We hear about “anger management.” We learn that anger is a thing to be controlled, softened, dissipated. And then on top of that, many mindfulness communities teach that feeling

How to love your period even when it’s painful

I have endometriosis. Endometriosis is a condition where your uterine lining grows outside of your uterus. It’s estimated more than 10% of women have it, though the real number is probably higher, since it often goes undiagnosed. You can have endo without any pain or symptoms. Symptoms I have experienced from endo are: cramps so painful that I throw up, multiple ovarian cysts that have

How I got over my breakup in 3 weeks

I went through a breakup last summer. We had been dating for two and a half years, and had been best friends for eight. We traveled the world together and had finally settled in California. He was a very significant part of my life, and I loved him deeply. We broke up in the beginning of June … and by the end of the month

You can get wet every single time you have sex

If your body isn’t on board, then the chances are high that you shouldn’t be, either. There’s this movement in women’s health that claims that our bodies don’t always match our experience. The oft-recommended book, Dr. Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are (which is great, in many areas), defines this as “arousal nonconcordance.”  The idea behind arousal nonconcordance is that you can be super aroused

Every relationship has a lesson. What lesson do you want to be learning?

At the end of my last relationship, I felt stuck. My body was already grieving. I had been crying for days, weeks. I couldn’t understand why I had such a sinking feeling in my stomach when mentally, I still felt unclear about it all. I really loved him. We were finally having the conversations I wished we had been having the entire time: conversations full

You were never a virgin and nothing was ever taken from you

You were never a virgin. You were never “pure” You were never a perfect, innocent baby, untouched by the dirtiness that is…. sex   Your body was the universe Your pussy dripped nectar You could never give her away, you were Whole to begin with   It was a lie. It was not a myth, it was an outright, purposeful lie. It was meant to