I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣
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For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣
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Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣
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It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣
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When I did start making sounds, they were little – short, appropriate moans that sounded like what I heard in porn. ⁣⁣
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I was still performing, but I thought that’s what everybody did. ⁣⁣
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Believing this is a fucking disservice, because sounding is one of the biggest tools to liberate stuck emotion and increase pleasure in our bodies. ⁣⁣
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It wasn’t until I became fully connected to my body and felt fully *in* my body during sex that making sounds felt natural. ⁣⁣
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And it doesn’t sound like little moans. ⁣⁣
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The sounds that come out of my body when experiencing pleasure include moans, loud screams, angry growls, fits of laughter, wails of grief… and more. ⁣⁣
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I often cycle through all of these things in the span of minutes. ⁣⁣
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Try expressing sound from the felt sensation your body is physically feeling. ⁣

If that piece of you could make a sound, and you weren’t altering or controlling it.. what would it sound like?⁣⁣
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This is your birthright, your wildness. The expression of your pleasure that doesn’t look cookie-cutter perfect. ⁣⁣
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Sex can be the deepest portal for healing. With ourselves or with a partner. ⁣⁣
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Let yourself make noise