Trusting Life

9 things you must understand to stop letting doubt and fear run your life

If you struggle to trust yourself completely and make decisions in your own life, you’ll rarely get what you want – and even if you do, you’ll still doubt that you deserve to receive it. This is hard, because it will paralyze you. You’ll find that you end up living a life that’s on everyone else’s terms. You might even follow the rules for so

The way you have been taught to feel is wrong

Once, I was leading a group of women through an emotional expression practice. I demoed for them: screams and growls of anger, moans of sadness, dry heaves of disgust. When I told them it was their turn, many of the women participated, some a bit hesitantly – and two in particular did not participate at all. At the end of the practice, as we were

This one thing is holding you back from feeling free to be who you are

If you do not know deeply, unshakably, that your body belongs to you, you will struggle. If you are not FOR yourself. If you are not in alignment with what your body wants first and foremost. Then you cannot have the life you really want. You will be forever burdened with thoughts of “if only” and “what if.” You will be anxious and unsettled and

How I got over my breakup in 3 weeks

I went through a breakup last summer. We had been dating for two and a half years, and had been best friends for eight. We traveled the world together and had finally settled in California. He was a very significant part of my life, and I loved him deeply. We broke up in the beginning of June … and by the end of the month

Every relationship has a lesson. What lesson do you want to be learning?

At the end of my last relationship, I felt stuck. My body was already grieving. I had been crying for days, weeks. I couldn’t understand why I had such a sinking feeling in my stomach when mentally, I still felt unclear about it all. I really loved him. We were finally having the conversations I wished we had been having the entire time: conversations full

What I learned from a month of pleasure

⁣A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to

Why taking risks is so important

I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. ⁣ When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. ⁣ ⁣ It’s

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣

Communicating with nature

Something that I’ve done ever since I was little was run to nature whenever I felt sad. ⁣ ⁣ Usually I sit on a rock, or at the base of a tree, or near water (or if I get really lucky like today, all three at once). ⁣ ⁣ We talk to one another but not in a way that feels like humans speaking. It