Trusting Life

How I got over my breakup in 3 weeks

I went through a breakup last summer. We had been dating for two and a half years, and had been best friends for eight. We traveled the world together and had finally settled in California. He was a very significant part of my life, and I loved him deeply. We broke up in the beginning of June … and by the end of the month

Every relationship has a lesson. What lesson do you want to be learning?

At the end of my last relationship, I felt stuck. My body was already grieving. I had been crying for days, weeks. I couldn’t understand why I had such a sinking feeling in my stomach when mentally, I still felt unclear about it all. I really loved him. We were finally having the conversations I wished we had been having the entire time: conversations full

maybe one day I will tell my children

maybe one day I will tell my children⁣ about days when I took baths full of water⁣ when I ran an online business⁣ maybe I will tell them about flavors evoked through cooking elaborate meals⁣ spices from the world around ⁣ while I watch a candle flicker on their faces⁣ ⁣ maybe I will tell them ⁣ the way flowers used to bloom⁣ the way

What I learned from a month of pleasure

⁣A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to

Why taking risks is so important

I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. ⁣ When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. ⁣ ⁣ It’s

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣

Communicating with nature

Something that I’ve done ever since I was little was run to nature whenever I felt sad. ⁣ ⁣ Usually I sit on a rock, or at the base of a tree, or near water (or if I get really lucky like today, all three at once). ⁣ ⁣ We talk to one another but not in a way that feels like humans speaking. It

I started crying and the sky started pouring in the darkness

I started crying and the sky started pouring in the darkness⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I opened up my entire heart. I said, these are all the ways you trigger me.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I said, these are all the ways men have hurt me, have disappointed me. These are the ways I haven’t fully let people in, ever. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ These are the secrets I haven’t told anyone. ⁣⁣

I never had good relationships with women

I never had good relationships with women. I changed my best friend every year. My friendships were based around how we related to boys, and getting boys to like us, and not liking all the other girls.⁣ ⁣ As an adult, I got to avoid deeper friendships with women because I changed locations so many times. I changed schools and I traveled around the world