Trusting Life

You already deserve the things you want

You are worthy because you exist. You are worthy because you are. I’ve been reflecting a lot lately on the individualistic ideals of the Western world. On our meritocracy, which says that we can have anything we want, as long as we work hard enough for it, as long as we prove we deserve it. When we are raised in a particular framework, we view

My thoughts from the past few weeks: racism, privilege, & shadow

The past few weeks have been heavy. A global pandemic plus the biggest civil rights movement in history is not for the faint of heart; there is so much energy in the air that pretty much everyone I speak to feels more tired than usual, more stressed than usual, more anxious than usual. I feel like we as a planet are all vomiting, are throwing

11 Ways to Increase Your Feminine Energy (and What’s Blocking You From It)

WOUND is now open for registration – find out more here. Do you feel like it’s hard for you to drop into your feminine, or like you don’t really know what that means? If so, you aren’t alone. Most women that I talk to feel this way. Our culture rewards masculine energy. We’re encouraged to work hard, get the promotions, sacrifice our pleasure and our

5 surprising things that can hold you back from getting what you want

We’re all walking around with past experiences stored in our bodies. These past experiences dictate pretty much everything about your life: the way you see things, the stories you create in your mind, and the actions you do and don’t decide to take. The trouble is, most of us don’t know what we’re holding. If that’s the case, you’re basically letting things other people have

Are you meant to be alone? 6 signs you’re blocking a new relationship

I’ll say it right off the bat: I don’t think anyone is “meant” to be alone. There are absolutely people who truly thrive being single. These people are single not because they’re incapable of being in a relationship, but because they’ve realized common relationship setups don’t make them happy. They might prefer to have several sexual partners (or not), have a wide social network, and

Why having a funeral for yourself is the ritual you need in your life right now

Last summer, I sat next to a dumpster, a long black dress with slits up each leg falling around my thighs. I was burning 70 photos of myself, the air smelled like acid. Inside my apartment, there were 13 candles in a circle, surrounded by hundreds of rose petals in different colors. I was having a funeral for myself. (you might recognize this description from

Let it rock you

It makes sense if you feel lost, confused. It makes sense if you feel trapped in, uncertain, irritable, and like you’re not sure where to turn. The global energy has shifted, quickly. Seemingly without warning. We’re experiencing a kind of collective panic, a collective grief. But we know what to do with grief, here.  Let it rock you. Let it crumble down the false narratives

The same experiences you can have with psychedelics are possible through sex

There are many ways to access the same feelings, the same sensations and types of visions. Drugs, meditation, breathwork, sex. I have a distaste for relying on external sources to get to that place. If a trip is your first entry into that kind of experience, fine. But there is an Alan Watts quote that I really love: “When you get the message, hang up the

Finding pleasure in the time of pandemic (and crisis in general)

Eight years ago, my brother was in the ICU with a traumatic brain injury, in a coma. No one knew whether he’d wake up or die. My entire world was flipped upside down. My days were filled with tears, I was constantly anxious, and I didn’t know how to calm my nervous system. In addition to my pervasive anxiety, though, I found myself reaching for

9 things you must understand to stop letting doubt and fear run your life

If you struggle to trust yourself completely and make decisions in your own life, you’ll rarely get what you want – and even if you do, you’ll still doubt that you deserve to receive it. This is hard, because it will paralyze you. You’ll find that you end up living a life that’s on everyone else’s terms. You might even follow the rules for so