Sex

How to be the Queen of Sex: 7 ways to get everything you want & drive your partner wild

Want to feel such magnificent pleasure that you feel absolutely unstoppable? Want to scream incredibly loudly and not care if your neighbors hear you? Want your boyfriend to feel like he can’t keep his hands off of you and not even know why – even years into your relationship? Want your sex life to only get better over time? Want to desire sex wayyy more

You can get wet every single time you have sex

If your body isn’t on board, then the chances are high that you shouldn’t be, either. There’s this movement in women’s health that claims that our bodies don’t always match our experience. The oft-recommended book, Dr. Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are (which is great, in many areas), defines this as “arousal nonconcordance.”  The idea behind arousal nonconcordance is that you can be super aroused

You were never a virgin and nothing was ever taken from you

You were never a virgin. You were never “pure” You were never a perfect, innocent baby, untouched by the dirtiness that is…. sex   Your body was the universe Your pussy dripped nectar You could never give her away, you were Whole to begin with   It was a lie. It was not a myth, it was an outright, purposeful lie. It was meant to

How to have super long orgasms (and what they actually sound like)

I watched the third episode of Gwyneth Paltrow’s The Goop Lab this week, entitled “The Pleasure is Ours,” after seeing so many people on my newsfeed rave about it… and I was disappointed. Most of the episode was beautiful. They talk candidly about female pleasure, about asking for what you want in bed, and they show multiple vulvas of different shapes and colors on screen

The difference between submission and surrender

When I tell women that I consider myself submissive to my partner, they often cringe. “Submit?!” They say. “No… what about surrender?” I get it. “Surrender” feels gentler.* It conjures up a flowing, radiant woman, softening herself toward her partner. “Submit” feels dirty. It feels intense. It makes our bodies cringe, it reminds us of allll past conditioning saying “women must submit to men.” And

My heart felt expanded, opening

My heart felt expanded, opening⁣ ⁣ Will you kiss me? he asked gently⁣ ⁣ I moved my mouth down between his legs⁣ ⁣ and I kissed softly, leisurely. And then I sat up.⁣ ⁣ I ran my hands over his thighs, his belly, his cock. As slowly as I wanted. Noticing the silkiness of his skin, various moles, the shape of his body.⁣ ⁣ Appreciating.

Sexual energy is emotionally healing

“I’m moody,” I whined. ⁣ ⁣ “I don’t want to be touched. I feel annoyed at everything.”⁣ ⁣ “You haven’t been well-fucked in like a week,” he said. ⁣ ⁣ He had been sick. I had been stressing about work. ⁣ ⁣ He said, “Yeah. I want to tie you up and fuck you.”⁣ ⁣ My body lit up, not even by choice. Yes, she

Queen of Blowjobs

I used to hate giving head. ⁣ ⁣ It felt like this annoying thing I was obligated to do, even though I didn’t want to. I rolled my eyes with my friends about how it was this thing men expected from us. ⁣ ⁣ I had experiences where guys shoved my head down. I often did it while thinking the whole time about how I

I used to be silent during sex

I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I did

All my life I’ve been touched in ways that weren’t about my pleasure

All my life I’ve been touched in ways that weren’t about my pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ I always felt like men were touching me because they wanted me to be ready for sex. The goal of touch was for me to finally be wet so that then they could have sex with me (if they decided to wait that long). ⁣ ⁣ Even when I had