Self Love

Pleasure in dissolving (being in Winter)

“I’m sad,” I said⁣ ⁣ “Winter is sad,” my mom said. “But it isn’t that time yet.”⁣ ⁣ “I’m sad,” I said⁣ ⁣ My sister did not reply⁣ ⁣ My father said, “I know, I just try to think of happier things, and stay happy.. you know?”⁣ ⁣ I don’t know if I know ⁣ ⁣ I know that like clockwork, Thanksgiving approaches and my

Integrating my inner child

When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt

Dress up for yourself

Your pleasure begins with you. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When you wear your favorite

I love you, Body

I love you, body. ⁣ ⁣ I love that you tell me how you are feeling. I love listening to you. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your little lines and marks. I love the stories that you hold. ⁣ ⁣ I love your softness and your squishiness and your hardness and your strength. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your curves. The hair that

Connecting with pussy

It would make sense if you didn’t feel a connection to your pussy at all.⁣ ⁣ If you were raised female, you’ve probably had a lifetime of completely ignoring what this area of your body really wants, really feels, really thinks.⁣ ⁣ We often have experienced endless crossing of our boundaries, whether violent or subtle -⁣ ⁣ if we were even confident enough or taught

Every moment of my life is filled with pleasure

Every moment of my life is filled with pleasure.⁣ ⁣ Pleasure can be found in everything. There’s pleasure in the beauty of nature, in good food, in love – of course.⁣ ⁣ But I also find pleasure in everything falling apart, in everything going wrong, in things like death and grief and everything not being perfect.⁣ ⁣ Once, I had an energetic orgasm just from

It is safe

It is safe to make sounds. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to be loved. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to express your rage. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel safe. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to feel joy. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to receive. ⁣ ⁣ It is safe to squeal. ⁣ ⁣ It is

The story of my body

Here is the scar from when I had a cyst removed, and was too indignant to stay out of the sun for the summer⁣ ⁣ Here are the lead spots: two of them, one in my hand and one on my knee, from being stabbed with a pencil in grade school⁣ ⁣ Here are the pores the magazines said were too big. If only I

Normalizing pubic hair

Just wanting to normalize a little body hair  💁🏼‍♀️⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I received about 10 women’s magazines/month as a teenager. All of them talked about shaving or waxing or using creams – getting rid of hair on the bikini line especially was seen as tidy, and necessary. ⁣ ⁣⁣ As a teenager, I could not figure out for the life of me what to do with

I’m fucking tired of the world telling me I can’t have pleasure

I’m fucking tired of the world telling me I can’t have pleasure. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t eat all my meals naked, moaning as flavors enter my mouth. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t go without a bra in public. ⁣ ⁣ That I can’t dance frequently and as badly as I want. ⁣ ⁣ The world says pleasure with ourselves should be hidden and shameful.