Self Love

You are not broken.

You are not broken. Look at the world around you: the dead plants, the cold evenings, the buds just beginning to rise through the frost. The moon, half empty. So. many. people. Endless people, people in their homes with their families and their cookware and their pets and their items that hold memories. I had an appointment today, an appointment at the doctor’s because my

Tell your partner when you self-pleasure. Not because he owns your body, but because you do

Tell your partner when you self-pleasure Not because he owns your body, but because you do.   Touch yourself slowly, deeply, lovingly Have long orgasms, and quick ones Spend hours, spend seconds Soak your sheets.   Say, I’m going to self pleasure in the other room, now Not because I don’t love you but because I love myself, and sometimes I want to remind myself

This one thing is holding you back from feeling free to be who you are

If you do not know deeply, unshakably, that your body belongs to you, you will struggle. If you are not FOR yourself. If you are not in alignment with what your body wants first and foremost. Then you cannot have the life you really want. You will be forever burdened with thoughts of “if only” and “what if.” You will be anxious and unsettled and

How to love your period even when it’s painful

I have endometriosis. Endometriosis is a condition where your uterine lining grows outside of your uterus. It’s estimated more than 10% of women have it, though the real number is probably higher, since it often goes undiagnosed. You can have endo without any pain or symptoms. Symptoms I have experienced from endo are: cramps so painful that I throw up, multiple ovarian cysts that have

You can get wet every single time you have sex

If your body isn’t on board, then the chances are high that you shouldn’t be, either. There’s this movement in women’s health that claims that our bodies don’t always match our experience. The oft-recommended book, Dr. Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are (which is great, in many areas), defines this as “arousal nonconcordance.”  The idea behind arousal nonconcordance is that you can be super aroused

You were never a virgin and nothing was ever taken from you

You were never a virgin. You were never “pure” You were never a perfect, innocent baby, untouched by the dirtiness that is…. sex   Your body was the universe Your pussy dripped nectar You could never give her away, you were Whole to begin with   It was a lie. It was not a myth, it was an outright, purposeful lie. It was meant to

Once, he wrapped his hands around my neck

Once, he wrapped his hands around my neck and he was inside me and in theory, it was the same as the other times except this time he was angry. I had just broken up with him But I let myself be led back inside I let him have sex with me and I felt stunned that he was so mad and I shut my

Nothing, herself

The past few months I have been learning from Nothing, herself⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Staring at the void while she begs, ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Stay in me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Nothing means staring out the window and crying⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Nothing means cooking and letting the energy of my body move through food⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Nothing means reading for pleasure, sometimes⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Nothing means feeling anxious to work and creating more space

Last week I turned 27

Last week I turned 27⁣. ⁣ I decided I could have everything I wanted this year. ⁣ ⁣ I chose myself. I chose my pleasure, even when it meant risking everything else. ⁣ I am in a love that feels so deep and complete that it often feels too magical and too unbelievable to express through words. ⁣ ⁣ I have a business that somehow

Submissive

She sits⁣ ⁣ Back against the wall⁣ ⁣ Her face fucked all afternoon⁣ ⁣ She knows who to submit to⁣ ⁣ She submits to grief⁣ ⁣ She submits to winter⁣ ⁣ She submits to him⁣ ⁣ But not to the rest of the world. ⁣ ⁣ Banned from platforms⁣ ⁣ Reported for speaking truth⁣ ⁣ Stalked by nobodies⁣ ⁣ She marinates in grief, in shadow⁣