Self Love

When You Set Boundaries Other People Will Call You Selfish

I have been called Selfish more times than I can count. Self-centered. Unaccommodating. Uncompromising. A bitch. All words that people who do not have boundaries will throw at you when you set your own. They will say them because it will trigger the fuck out of the fact that they do not know what it means to set their own. I have set some of

A woman called me ugly and this is how I responded

Somebody wrote to Jordan last night to tell him that I was ugly and to ask why he kept posting about me. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ This woman has based her career on being a model (and is now a dating coach).⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent my entire teenage life thinking that my looks were the only source of my value. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I spent so much time

We crave the things that are bad for us

Every few months, my victimized inner teenager will win and I’ll have a pizza binge. Pizza makes my body very sick. I’ve been eating a specific diet this year. Not an overly-restricted, no-exceptions kind of diet – but more a “I have to admit that my body no longer tolerates certain foods” kind of diet. It is so closely related to the inner work I’ve

I used to think I hated cooking & it was too girly of an activity for me

I used to think I hated cooking. I thought I was bad at it. I thought that I was a feminist woman and cooking was below me. The first month I stayed with Jordan, I did not cook him one. Thing. And then… when we started to talk about living together… he was like, I can’t take care of every meal. So I had to

Shunning makeup is a sign of wounding with the masculine

Shunning makeup can be a big “fuck you” to the patriarchy And it is also a sign of wounding with the masculine. I clung to makeup throughout my entire teenage life. I had horrible acne. I refused to let anyone see me without full foundation ever. I touched it up throughout the day, during soccer practices. I took makeup with me into the shower at

The mature feminine can sit within discomfort

The immature feminine tears things down when they no longer feel true. She is a little bit afraid of destruction, but she will let it come through. She is fascinated by it. She rips everything to shreds when it no longer feels right. The immature feminine utilizes her power, but she often feels victimized by it. She absolves herself of responsibility, saying, “Me? I didn’t

Your Belly is Supposed to Hang Down

YOUR BELLY IS SUPPOSED TO HANG DOWN. Today I had a session with @_carly.rae . As she massaged my belly, she pointed out how tight the fascia was. “Our bellies are supposed to hang down,” she said. To make room for our organs. So our uterus and our intestines have space. I have known for a long time that I’m not supposed to have a

My “doing a good job” pattern & how it disappeared

For pretty much all of my life, I’ve had this pattern of wanting to be told that I’m “doing a good job.”⁣ ⁣ When I was little, I was super praised for being good at things. For my grades, my athleticism, my performance. ⁣ ⁣ I was praised for my “light,” for my happiness and ability to put my emotions to the side to benefit

Here are some things you should know about me

Here are some things you should know about me: I’m a witch. Not like a witch that knows any sort of “xyz banishing spell.” But I know things without knowing how I know them, I speak to trees and flowers and plants, and I innately know how to do things with blood and candles and pieces of my hair when it serves me.  I love