Relationships

Making fun of each other is criticism, and criticism is not love

In my family, we showed our love for one another by making fun of one another. We bonded over making fun of one another. In fact, I learned that “being easy to make fun of” was one of my top-valued qualities. My family told me that my voice was too squeaky and annoying. That I was forgetful and irresponsible. That I was ditzy and “blonde.”
Posted July 2, 2020
8 mins read

11 Ways to Increase Your Feminine Energy (and What’s Blocking You From It)

Limited time only! – Awaken Your Feminine is open for registration. Learn more here. Do you feel like it’s hard for you to drop into your feminine, or like you don’t really know what that means? If so, you aren’t alone. Most women that I talk to feel this way. Our culture rewards masculine energy. We’re encouraged to work hard, get the promotions, sacrifice our
Posted May 29, 2020
14 mins read

What the life of two sex & relationship coaches is really like under quarantine

Jordan and I started quarantining during the third week of March. The weekend before everyone started staying in their homes, we went out to dinner. “Right, we’re not supposed to do that,” the waiter said, winking, as he held out his hand to shake, and Jordan took it and I didn’t. Two days after that, it was like an entirely different world. My friends had
Posted May 16, 2020
9 mins read

Doubting Your Relationship? 6 Simple Questions to Ask Yourself

Do you often question whether you’re demanding too much from your partner? Do you wonder if you should be better at loving them the way they already are? Do you spend a lot of time thinking that you just need to work through more of your own stuff, and that they’re teaching you good lessons? Something that can be very, very tricky, particularly for self-aware
Posted May 13, 2020
7 mins read

What to do if sex with your ex was better than sex with your current partner

Are you spending a lot of time wistfully remembering that incredible sex you and your ex had? Are you feeling like no one is ever going to touch you that way again? Are you silently bemoaning the fact that your current partner is just not as good? One of the many negative side effects of women not being taught that our bodies belong to us,
Posted April 21, 2020
5 mins read

Are you meant to be alone? 6 signs you’re blocking a new relationship

I’ll say it right off the bat: I don’t think anyone is “meant” to be alone. There are absolutely people who truly thrive being single. These people are single not because they’re incapable of being in a relationship, but because they’ve realized common relationship setups don’t make them happy. They might prefer to have several sexual partners (or not), have a wide social network, and
Posted April 15, 2020
7 mins read

This is how to feel safe embodying your feminine energy

In today’s society, particularly with the (much-needed) rise of feminism, most women are taught the narrative that we can do everything men can do – plus backwards, bleeding, and in high heels. And yet… there are many women waking up to the fact that, while it’s necessary to have equal rights and equal opportunities to men… inhabiting our masculine energy most of the time is
Posted April 8, 2020
5 mins read

To the masculine: she just wants to know that she can trust you

One of the most important roles of the feminine is to call out and question the masculine. In a high-polarity relationship, the masculine leads. He* is direct, logical, and steady. He is a provider, he shows up fully, and he helps the feminine live her best life possible. And sometimes he misses his own blind spots. The feminine is intuitive, feeling. She will immediately sense
Posted April 1, 2020
4 mins read

7 things to do if you need space from your partner during quarantine

Space is a non-negotiable, essential need for me. I came across an article recently about how distance is the little-known sixth love language; it resonated with me. Jordan will typically leave our apartment for 5-10 hours during the day, as many times a month as needed, whenever I feel cagey. When we made our love lists, filled with ways to love one another better, giving
Posted March 21, 2020
9 mins read

Tell your partner when you self-pleasure. Not because he owns your body, but because you do

Tell your partner when you self-pleasure Not because he owns your body, but because you do.   Touch yourself slowly, deeply, lovingly Have long orgasms, and quick ones Spend hours, spend seconds Soak your sheets.   Say, I’m going to self pleasure in the other room, now Not because I don’t love you but because I love myself, and sometimes I want to remind myself
Posted March 2, 2020
3 mins read