Relationships

Where It’s Really At For Me Are the Quiet Moments

People will try to sell you hot sex⁣ ⁣ And that’s great⁣ ⁣ But where it’s really at for me are the quiet moments. ⁣ ⁣ Where you are sitting in sweatpants and dirty hair and hot sauce all over your mouth and he says, “I love your body so much.”⁣ ⁣ Where you are cuddling up and going to sleep and caressing one another’s

Going Through Death & Rebirth, Together

There have been many moments like this, the past few days. ⁣ ⁣ We are both moving through a lot. Jordan said this morning, it feels like we are going through a death and rebirth cycle together. ⁣ ⁣ It always panicked me with past partners, to go through such periods of growth – because it usually meant we were growing apart. But not this

This Love is All I Want Forever

This love is all I want forever. ⁣ ⁣ This love where I can feel his sweetness and his softness⁣ Where he lays his head on my chest and I witness this part of him he does not show anywhere else⁣ ⁣ This love where he fully trusts my desire and my knowing⁣ ⁣ This love that is full of “you are so pretty” and

Taking responsibility for your desire

A few weeks ago, I uncovered a pattern I had with Jordan. I would desire to have sex. But instead of naming my desire, I’d often just feel it inside my body and hope that he noticed. I’d think things to myself like, “I just want him to initiate more. To take control. I’ve been obvious enough, he probably doesn’t want to.” Sometimes I’d say

What I want to remember: a prayer for masculine and feminine union

What I want to remember⁣ ⁣ More of my warrior is what is needed⁣ My scream, my strength, my not standing for anything less ⁣ Calling forth his highest version of himself⁣ ⁣ Offering him the earth as a gift. My sensuality, my dancing, purring, growling, stomping, moaning. ⁣ ⁣ My full, total, uninhibited expression. ⁣ ⁣ Soothing his system with that energy through my

The eroticism of being seen

Being seen is deeply terrifying. ⁣ ⁣ And it’s also fucking hot. ⁣ ⁣ And what we sometimes miss in the desire to be seen is that the appeal of it actually comes from your willingness to feel all of the sensations. ⁣ ⁣ Terror included. ⁣ ⁣ We LOVE feeling terror. ⁣ ⁣ There is something so tingly, so exciting, so ALIVE about letting

Watch the stories your mind creates

This morning, Jordan and I were getting ready to go on vacation (a covid-safe trip, to his family’s house on the coast). He left to pick up our rental car. I was in a fantastic mood, cleaning the house, getting everything ready to leave. When Jordan came back, he was quiet. He didn’t give me much attention. I knew he hadn’t eaten yet, that he

Feeling and naming your full desire: Jordan pays for our lives & this is what that looks like

Earlier this year, I was lying on the grass, headphones in, listening to one of my teachers talk about feeling your full desire. She mentioned how when we don’t express 100% of our desire to someone, we rob them of the ability to feel 100% of our appreciation. I thought about how I owed Jordan money. How I was “supposed” to feel so grateful to

The exact practice I do every week to strengthen my relationship: creating a relationship ritual

— WOUND is now open for registration. Every time I mention that Jordan and I have a weekly relationship ritual, everybody wants to know exactly what we do and exactly how to do it. Having a relationship ritual is the absolute number-one thing I recommend for the health of your relationship. It has been such a game-changer in our relationship; I honestly think it’s more

I softened into my feminine & attracted the most incredible partner

Jordan is kind to me. When I forget to turn off the stove, he smiles and turns it off himself. When I am making us late, he calmly changes plans so we are not late. Every single morning, I come out of the bedroom, and he immediately stops what he’s doing, closes his computer and puts it to the side, giving me his full presence