Men

If you think you have to “train” men, this is for you

If you think you have to “train” men If you feel glee when you “put him in his place” You will continually end up with men who are submissive to you. Who cast down their eyes when you get angry Who say “I don’t know, what do you think?” to every problem that arises Who shut down when you ask them to speak Who cannot
Posted July 27, 2020
2 mins read

To the masculine: she just wants to know that she can trust you

One of the most important roles of the feminine is to call out and question the masculine. In a high-polarity relationship, the masculine leads. He* is direct, logical, and steady. He is a provider, he shows up fully, and he helps the feminine live her best life possible. And sometimes he misses his own blind spots. The feminine is intuitive, feeling. She will immediately sense
Posted April 1, 2020
4 mins read

I won’t hate men, the way you want me to

I won’t hate men, the way you want me to. I have coached men who have broken down in tears from the way they were ridiculed by women. I have coached men who have remembered abuse for the first time. I have coached men who have had such horrific childhoods that they find solace in incel Internet forums. I have coached Christian, Trump-loving men who
Posted January 28, 2020
6 mins read

Anger toward the patriarchy vs anger toward men

I really want women to understand that our anger toward the patriarchy/our society is valid. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And that it is not the same as our anger toward men. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It is so valid to be hurt that we have grown up in a society that has told us we are too much or not enough, that has shut our bodies and our power
Posted September 11, 2019
2 mins read

Why it hurts to be angry toward men

“Men respond really well to condescension,” she said, laughing. ⁣ ⁣ I looked at her, my body frozen. ⁣ ⁣ She was a sex educator. Someone who teaches classes on relating to one another allll the time. ⁣ ⁣ I know where this belief comes from. How it’s rooted in a lifetime of feeling lesser than, of not knowing any other way to feel powerful.
Posted September 10, 2019
2 mins read

The moments when I am most impressed by masculinity

The moments when I am most impressed by masculinity are when I see men being willing to step into all sides of themselves. ⁣ ⁣ When I watch their tears. ⁣ ⁣ When I hear what they are afraid of. ⁣ ⁣ It makes an entire part of my body come online and say: this is brave. This is a man I can trust. This
Posted July 11, 2019
2 mins read

We had just finished doing a practice when I heard him sobbing

We had just finished doing a practice when I heard him sobbing.⁣ ⁣ “Can you turn the camera so I can see you?” I asked, gently. ⁣ ⁣ “Do I have to?” He asked, reluctantly. ⁣ ⁣ “No,” I said, “If it feels safer to not, you can keep it there. But I think it might be important to let another person witness you.”⁣ ⁣
Posted June 8, 2019
2 mins read