Occasionally, when Jordan and I are fighting, I have the urge to go sleep on the living room floor. It always happens during a fight when my ego is especially wounded, where something he said touched something really deep And a part of me wants to win, to make him hurt too, to “show him,” and to sleep in the other room. Or if it
You don’t “have” anxiety. Anxiety is something that you *feel* because of past experiences in your life and the way you learned to respond. It also tends to be the result of built-up stored emotion. Anxiety is not something that is happening to you. It is not attached to you like a thing you cannot control. The way we speak about things matters. The first
Your ego will tell you lots of enticing things. It will tell you that you need to have goals. That once you hit that money milestone or get to that perfect weight or find the perfect husband – that then you will have made it. Then you will be happy. Then you will have what you want. Most people spend their entire lives chasing
Many years ago, I was with friends of friends and they were talking about a girl who cried during sex. “Can you imagine?” one of them said. “I would never do that.” One of my clients told me yesterday that she cried during sex and asked me if something was wrong with her. CRYING IS A WAY WE RELEASE EMOTION.
The past few weeks I’ve been getting sudden bursts of sensation within my body. Like a giddiness, a bubbling up of delight. Suddenly, it’ll push at the edges of my skin, behind my eyes, a gentle explosion up through my belly My skin will tingle and I’ll take a breath in and just be like: wow, life It feels
“Like a primitive, shrieking banshee call,” she said. “That’s the energy I want to feel more, from you.” I pretended to feel confused, for a moment. I thought, she’s wrong. That’s not the energy I need. But it wasn’t confusion. It was avoidance. And I could feel the truth in my body. Later, we were asked to
Last night I went looking for her, the girl I was 9 years ago, the girl who lost her brother. I re-activated my first Facebook ever. I remembered writing messages to Damon, while he sat unconscious in the ICU, because I didn’t know how else to talk to him. Talking directly to him was weird, because he didn’t respond. So I wrote my messages through
Maybe you’ve had this experience: You got the job. You had the best orgasm of your life. Or you had some huge breakthrough, and moved a lot of energy in some way. You had an incredible high, and felt like you were doing really well. And then… your energy tanked. Suddenly you felt… low. Maybe you got sick, or you felt super sad, or angry, or
We’re all walking around with past experiences stored in our bodies. These past experiences dictate pretty much everything about your life: the way you see things, the stories you create in your mind, and the actions you do and don’t decide to take. The trouble is, most of us don’t know what we’re holding. If that’s the case, you’re basically letting things other people have
Have you ever felt so full of emotion that you didn’t know what to do, found yourself repeating the same emotional patterns over and over again, or been frustrated that analyzing your feelings didn’t work for you? If so, it’s not your fault. When most people talk about emotion, they miss the most important piece. And without addressing it, your emotions can never fully shift.