Boundaries

You can get wet every single time you have sex

If your body isn’t on board, then the chances are high that you shouldn’t be, either. There’s this movement in women’s health that claims that our bodies don’t always match our experience. The oft-recommended book, Dr. Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are (which is great, in many areas), defines this as “arousal nonconcordance.”  The idea behind arousal nonconcordance is that you can be super aroused

You were never a virgin and nothing was ever taken from you

You were never a virgin. You were never “pure” You were never a perfect, innocent baby, untouched by the dirtiness that is…. sex   Your body was the universe Your pussy dripped nectar You could never give her away, you were Whole to begin with   It was a lie. It was not a myth, it was an outright, purposeful lie. It was meant to

There is room for both your boundaries and your feminine radiance

There is room.  There is room for you to be a strong, boundaried, powerful woman and for you to still surrender to your partner and let them lead and be in charge.  There is room for you to be taken care of. For you to let your partner make most of the decisions. For you to relax into creativity, and flow, and existence.  If you

Once, he wrapped his hands around my neck

Once, he wrapped his hands around my neck and he was inside me and in theory, it was the same as the other times except this time he was angry. I had just broken up with him But I let myself be led back inside I let him have sex with me and I felt stunned that he was so mad and I shut my

“I don’t want to” is the only reason you need for saying no to anything, ever

“I don’t want to” is the only reason you ever need for saying no to anything, ever. ⁣ ⁣ Same with: “I’m not interested. I don’t like it. I changed my mind. No. Never. I don’t like you. Please stop talking to me.”⁣ ⁣ If we were raised female it can be especially hard to say these things. Because it is ingrained in us to