They will tell you you are unclean, that your blood should not be talked about. They will tell you to hide your body. That your body is inherently flawed, that all its lines and bumps and hairs need to be fixed. They will tell you to be quieter. That you are just looking for attention, that you don’t know enough.
I really want women to understand that our anger toward the patriarchy/our society is valid. And that it is not the same as our anger toward men. It is so valid to be hurt that we have grown up in a society that has told us we are too much or not enough, that has shut our bodies and our power
“Men respond really well to condescension,” she said, laughing. I looked at her, my body frozen. She was a sex educator. Someone who teaches classes on relating to one another allll the time. I know where this belief comes from. How it’s rooted in a lifetime of feeling lesser than, of not knowing any other way to feel powerful.
A month ago, I decided to only do the things that would make me happiest, all the time. I decided to give myself everything I wanted for an entire month. I spent way more money than I ever have. I ordered food delivered to my door every single day. I went to my favorite coffee shop almost every day. I said “no” to
I used to hate giving head. It felt like this annoying thing I was obligated to do, even though I didn’t want to. I rolled my eyes with my friends about how it was this thing men expected from us. I had experiences where guys shoved my head down. I often did it while thinking the whole time about how I
I’ve been strengthening this muscle for a long time, of being uncomfortable and taking risks. When I went to 4 different universities and quit all of them. When I traveled the world by myself. When I started a business and sold it at 22. When I stopped wearing makeup and learned to love my body. When I left “good enough” relationships. It’s