Month: August 2019

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun

16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That all men are wonderful and want to help me⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I

Integrating your inner child

When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt

Lies I used to tell myself about pleasure and business and life

LIES I USED TO TELL MYSELF:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That it didn’t matter if my partner wasn’t working on himself and that I could be the one to initiate him into it⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That I had to work hours a day in order to make money ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ – That I had to restrict the amount of pleasurable things I allowed myself (yummy food, expensive

Dress up for yourself

Your pleasure begins with you. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. ⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣ The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When you wear your favorite

Blood between my legs is gross, but blood on my face elicits fantasies

A man wrote to me today to let me know that seeing blood between my legs is gross, but seeing blood on my face is “animalistic” and “primal” and elicits fantasies. ⁣ ⁣ It is endlessly fascinating to me that people were more bothered by my last photo than all of the photos of my blood on my face. ⁣ ⁣ More people unfollowed me

I love you, Body

I love you, body. ⁣ ⁣ I love that you tell me how you are feeling. I love listening to you. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your little lines and marks. I love the stories that you hold. ⁣ ⁣ I love your softness and your squishiness and your hardness and your strength. ⁣ ⁣ I love all of your curves. The hair that

I get angry that there are teenage girls who think their bodies are untouchable

I do this because it still makes people angry that I do it. ⁣ ⁣ They get angry that I’m touching my own body and claiming it as beautiful. ⁣ ⁣ They are uncomfortable with the wildness, the grossness, the power… of womxn and our bodies. ⁣ ⁣ They label it “crazy” and “disgusting.” They dedicate entire podcast episodes to it, entire articles and blog

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever

“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever⁣ ⁣ It’s basically saying: lower your joy. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. ⁣ ⁣ Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you. ⁣ ⁣

I used to be silent during sex

I used to be silent during sex. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When I did

Communicating with nature

Something that I’ve done ever since I was little was run to nature whenever I felt sad. ⁣ ⁣ Usually I sit on a rock, or at the base of a tree, or near water (or if I get really lucky like today, all three at once). ⁣ ⁣ We talk to one another but not in a way that feels like humans speaking. It