16 beliefs I have now that make my life way more fun: – That my neighbors overhearing me orgasm is me giving them a huge invaluable gift – That people seeing me cry is also an invaluable gift – That all men are wonderful and want to help me – That the more pleasure I experience the more money I
When I was 8, my mom told me that I was so good at everything that everyone would love to watch me fail. She said it because people were making fun of me for being smart. But 8-year-old me learned that nobody actually wants me to succeed. When I was 19, I was in my first semester of college. It felt
Your pleasure begins with you. Your pleasure is FOR you, not for anybody else. Increasing pleasure comes from all the moments nobody else sees. The moments you eat bread and chocolate for lunch and moan the entire time. When you take baths instead of working. When you dance to the slinkiest music. When you wear your favorite
I love you, body. I love that you tell me how you are feeling. I love listening to you. I love all of your little lines and marks. I love the stories that you hold. I love your softness and your squishiness and your hardness and your strength. I love all of your curves. The hair that
I do this because it still makes people angry that I do it. They get angry that I’m touching my own body and claiming it as beautiful. They are uncomfortable with the wildness, the grossness, the power… of womxn and our bodies. They label it “crazy” and “disgusting.” They dedicate entire podcast episodes to it, entire articles and blog
“Don’t get your hopes up” is the worst advice ever It’s basically saying: lower your joy. It’s a great way to learn to do everything from a place of fear. Fear that it won’t work out… fear that you won’t get what you want… fear that the world is actually just terrible after all, and so are you.
I used to be silent during sex. For years, I didn’t make a sound, because I was stuck inside my head. Was I doing everything right? How did my body look? Was I bad at sex? It felt unnatural to make any noise, so I didn’t. I figured everyone who was making noise was performing. When I did
Something that I’ve done ever since I was little was run to nature whenever I felt sad. Usually I sit on a rock, or at the base of a tree, or near water (or if I get really lucky like today, all three at once). We talk to one another but not in a way that feels like humans speaking. It