Demetra Nyx
Demetra Nyx
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Hey, I’m Demetra.

I’m a sex coach, writer, & creator.

Most often, I guide people to connect with their bodies so they can maximize pleasure in their lives, while simultaneously helping them process stress, grief, and anxiety.

 
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“Raw, unfiltered, hauntingly beautiful words describing the fragility of the human mind, the world, and the counterbalances of nature. Emotionally jarring and thought-provoking. One can actually hear the author moaning in her sorrow and also in ecstasy as she finds her solace in nature. Highly recommend.”

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What is wild to me is that people think my boyfriend should be upset that my boobs have been seen by hundreds of thousands of people – as if I am his property.⁣ ⁣ Or that people think I have somehow devalued myself….. because my body in its natural form has been seen by other humans.⁣ ⁣ If you can’t see someone naked and still take them seriously, that’s on you.⁣ ⁣ If you can’t see someone naked and allow yourself to have your own response (sexual or not) without making it that person’s responsibility, that’s on you.⁣ ⁣ If you can’t see a person naked without needing to decide whether you approve of their body… that’s on you.⁣ ⁣ If you can’t see menstrual blood touching someone’s body/face without freaking the fuck out…. that’s on you.⁣ ⁣ If you can’t see something that asks you to examine your privilege without getting incredibly defensive… you have some things to examine within yourself.⁣ ⁣ Want to know the craziest thing???⁣ ⁣ Hundreds of thousands of people have now seen my boobs………⁣ ⁣ …. and I don’t feel devalued at all.⁣ ⁣ And now! I’m off to get a massage and get my nails done and take a nice long break from the overwhelm of these notifications. If you’d like to help fund that, please Venmo @demetranyx or join my patreon 😂⁣ ⁣ How we react to the world is largely reflective of how we feel about ourselves.⁣ ⁣ People aren’t objects, and they aren’t property. Question yourself.⁣ ⁣ xoxo⁣ ⁣ ps. I also have a few coaching spots open for June, if you’re struggling. We can talk about sex, confidence, you name it – website link in bio. ❤️
I see you.⁣ ⁣ You, writing to me about how it’s so hard to get hurt and get back up again.⁣ ⁣ You, emailing me essays about all the pain in your life.⁣ ⁣ You, commenting on my power, which is the power you see and want more of in yourself.⁣ ⁣ You, who can’t imagine having thousands of strangers having opinions on your body and still continuing to show it.⁣ ⁣ You, who feels so fucking deeply, and for whom reading the comments feels like wounds being stabbed over and over again.⁣ ⁣ You, who struggles with feeling like your body is your own.⁣ ⁣ You, who knows there is so much more to your life than you know, and feels afraid of stepping into that fully.⁣ ⁣ You, who is so successful and still feels like something’s missing.⁣ ⁣ You, who knows that you deserve more but is afraid that you don’t.⁣ ⁣ You, who believes pleasure and sovereignty and confidence and healthy relationships just aren’t entirely possible for you.⁣ ⁣ You, who celebrates yourself with me.⁣ ⁣ You, who is so fucking exhausted by the world.⁣ ⁣ I see you.⁣ ⁣ You are amazing. Thank you for existing.⁣ ⁣ I have a few one-on-one coaching spots opening up for June. If you feel pulled, you can book your session through my website (link in bio). I’d love to connect with you.⁣ ⁣ I also have a patreon community (small but growing!) where I share poetry, blog posts, practices, videos about sex and bodies, and hold live calls. That’s where my most personal things are lately. Link to that is also in my bio. ⁣ ⁣ And if you’re just here to watch, that’s cool, too ❤️⁣ ⁣ ps. if you are new here - yes that is menstrual blood 🥀⁣
Hey Facebook/IG. I noticed your community guidelines are awfully specific about when my naked body is appropriate and when it is not. ⁣ ⁣ I noticed that my nipples are appropriate when they are an act of protest, specifically.⁣ ⁣ I also noticed you deem them appropriate if they are being used to feed a baby, or if I have breast cancer. But not any other time?⁣ ⁣ Well, I am protesting. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that society deems my body to be sexual when I am not doing anything sexual with it. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that my boyfriend can lie outside in the park with his shirt off and I cannot. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that lawmakers continue to take ownership of my body. In a country where we are supposed to be “free.”⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that we have a president who would assault me if he could. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that your guidelines don’t make any sense. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that you think my nipples are inherently sexual. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting that everybody seems to think they get a say about what I can and cannot do with my own body. ⁣ ⁣ I hope you leave this photo up. Your guidelines are very specific, as I mentioned:⁣ ⁣ “Where such intent is clear... we allow other images, including those depicting acts of protest.” ⁣ ⁣ “We understand that nudity can be shared for a variety of reasons, including as a form of protest, to raise awareness about a cause...”⁣ ⁣ I think that abortion bans are toward the top of a pyramid whose base is made up with cat-calling and my nipples being deemed too sexual to show in public. ⁣ ⁣ I am protesting. I demand the same rights as men.
Some of the topics we touched on during my 3-hour webinar last night. We talked about climate change and social justice issues. We owned them and talked about how to cope. I felt like I was going quickly - I could have talked for double the time. ⁣ ⁣ We danced and we breathed and we felt. There was even an embarrassing moment where everyone got to watch me dance alone in silence for 5 minutes when I didn’t realize no one else could hear the music 😂😂⁣ ⁣ The replay has already been sent out to those who registered. If you didn’t register but now you want it, you can get it through my Patreon - link in my bio. ⁣ ⁣ I have just started bleeding and am feeling internal and exhausted. I feel like another one of these papers should say, “rest.” ⁣ ⁣ xoxo
TODAY IS THE DAY!!!!!!!!⁣ ⁣ It’s your last chance to register to join my webinar. ⁣ ⁣ The Scorpio full moon has been opening everything allll up so that we can see and feel it all and I’m here to do that with you. ⁣(esp since it is my 8th house of death and sex and rebirth. Here for it.) ⁣ If you’ve somehow managed to not see any of my million posts describing the webinar by now you can find out more about it at the link in my bio. ⁣ ⁣ You don’t want to miss it. My intention is for it to be deep and honest and empowering and fun - all at the same time. ⁣ ⁣ If you can’t make live at 6 pm PST you’ll receive the replay. But COME LIVE bc we’ll have the most fun all together!!!⁣ ⁣ All genders welcome & there will be music and dancing and tears. My favorite combo xoxo⁣ ⁣ Here is a photo of me with my hair the way it was when I woke up and with all my little pre-period pimples because I love you and will never ever photoshop my photos ❤️❤️❤️⁣ ⁣ Register at link in my bio over 100 people are registered already and it’s gonna be amazing!!
I spent 6 years of my life “feeling” all my grief. ⁣ ⁣ I went to all the yoga classes, the retreats. I went to talk therapy. I read all the spiritual books. ⁣ ⁣ None of it really changed anything. I cried a lot. My anxiety got a bit better. I became very certain that “feeling” was the way through - I preached it all the time. Even though nothing was changing. ⁣ ⁣ That’s because no one ever taught me how to feel. ⁣ ⁣ Last year I learned that the way I had been feeling was often just re-traumatizing my body. I also learned that it’s possible to get too sucked into the trauma story, to let it take you over, to have it become so familiar, so comfortable, that it feels like the safest place to stay. ⁣ ⁣ I learned that I was using “being an empath” and “highly sensitive” (I still am those things!) as an excuse for drowning in emotional overwhelm all the time. ⁣ ⁣ I still sometimes drown in emotion - by choice, now, because it can be pleasurable. And my nervous system has rewired enough that it is possible for me to CHOOSE in any moment how I want to be reacting. ⁣ ⁣ Hello. This is magical. I spent 6 years drowning in the same kinds of anxiety and grief and it only took me about 6 months to make a major, major shift once I understood what was happening. ⁣ ⁣ I want to share this with you. For free. For no reason at all other than so many of us are feeling so overwhelmed by emotions by all the news in the world right now and I have these tools and I want to share them. ⁣ ⁣ (And I mean I’d love if you joined my patreon to get calls like this every month but really even if not it’s all good). ⁣ ⁣ That is why I’m holding my webinar on Monday. JOIN!!!!! Send the link to your friends. Watch with your friends. ⁣ ⁣ Everyone is dealing with emotional shit. No one wants to talk about the worst of it. I want you to know you can feel it so deeply in a way that is nourishing and integrative. ⁣ ⁣ You can register at the link in my bio. Being live will be 100x better (questions! community! making space in your life for yourself!) but if you can’t make the live call I’ll send out a replay. ⁣ ⁣ There are almost 70 people registered already JOIN US WE WILL CRY AND LAUGH AND HAVE FUN⁣
Somebody gave my book a 1 star review without purchasing it. ⁣ ⁣ (since it's only available through Amazon, every review should be a "verified purchase" and theirs is not). ⁣ ⁣ I've been dealing with ongoing harassment since my period posts went viral (literally every day still) which is whatever - people did that to my business page to the extent that I just deleted it - but the customer reviews on Amazon really matter. ⁣ ⁣ It hurts a lot when it's something that I feel is so good and so important. I'm totally open to criticism, but only if you've actually read it. ⁣ ⁣ If you've read the book, I'd love if you could review it honestly to add a bit more nuance to the review section ❤️⁣ ⁣ Alsoooo I am working all day today on my free webinar that’s happening Monday!!!! It’s gonna be so amazing and so soothing and helpful and I’m so excited for it. If you haven’t seen me post about it yet you can register through the link in my bio - way more info is there too 💕💕
Taking a break from all the abortion stress to show you my HAIR!!! I finally got it cut today for the first time in over a year. Shoutout to @shaiamiel & his team for such great conversation and all the flattery and making me laugh 😂❤️❤️ the pics are after it was cut but are before and after it was washed and dried. My hair feels so soft now and I am so happy!!! ps if you have curly hair get a curly hair cut - it will change your life! (Or you can check out Shai’s blog he has lots of free resources) 💇🏼‍♀️
I’ve never had an abortion (I’ve never been pregnant). ⁣But there was a boy who came inside me without asking, because he “just couldn’t help it.”⁣ ⁣ There was a boy who took the condom off halfway through without telling me. ⁣ ⁣ There were so many men who refused to use condoms at all, and I allowed myself to be convinced because no one had ever taught me I had a real right to say no. ⁣ ⁣ These were the majority of my sexual experiences, not exceptions. ⁣ ⁣ I drove myself secretly to Planned Parenthood when I was 17, and later to the drugstore to get Plan B. ⁣ ⁣ I never told the boys; it seemed like my responsibility, my fault somehow. ⁣ ⁣ I bought Plan B for my sister’s 14-year-old friend. ⁣ ⁣ I couldn’t be on the pill - not only does it have shitty side effects in general, but it gives me panic attacks and my body rejects it. ⁣ ⁣ How dare anyone suggest that people who don’t want to be pregnant “control themselves” or abstain, when most women are not having 100% consensual sex to begin with. ⁣ ⁣ Some women have never had sex that they were 100% wanting. ⁣ ⁣ Not because they don’t like sex, but because they’ve been treated so shittily during their sexual experiences (or assaulted, or abused, but I’m not even talking about that) that they truly believe that’s what sex has to be like for them. ⁣ ⁣ I know what it’s like to be that woman. ⁣ ⁣ I want to hear more men speaking out. ⁣ ⁣ (ps if you’re feeling overwhelmed by emotion I’m doing a live call on Monday evening that’s free where we’re gonna talk about all the things happening and I’ll give you tools to support your body through it. Men are welcome too. Link in bio to register)