Demetra Nyx
Demetra Nyx
 

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Hey, I’m Demetra.

I’m a sex coach for men*, and I’m here to help you have mind-blowing sex and become a better lover to your partner.

 
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It is not “normal” to stop having sex as you get older. Couples tend to get to a certain age - whether it’s 40, 60, or 70 - and think, well, this decline is normal. Our bodies just don’t work as well as they used to, we’ve been married so long, we’re too busy, I have no sex drive anymore. But people who work on their sexuality actually report having BETTER sex as they get older, not less. Often, we attribute things like weaker erections or less wetness to age. But in reality, what’s typically underneath those things is a lifetime of ignoring our issues around sex and our bodies: unhealed trauma, unaddressed shame, insecurities, and more. And people are prevented from fixing it because they think, “well, this is just how life is.” But sometimes.... sometimes people have intuition. They have a tiny little feeling somewhere deep down that says: there must be more than this. And sometimes, so rarely, people follow that feeling, and they take the risk to work on it. I had a man in his 60s hire me the other day who has never talked to anyone in his life about anything, ever. But he had that nudge, that little piece in his brain that said: this isn’t really it, is it? There are so many ways to continue having sex and connecting intimately. Even in a wheelchair, even when some body parts aren’t as agile. Even when your partner hasn’t wanted to touch you in years. Everything is possible. There is no age at which it’s “too late.” You can have better sex at 70 than other people have in their 30s. I know, because I have friends who do!! Don’t neglect your sexual health. Your sexual energy is your life force energy. It’s not lost, you can always find it and begin to work with it again. And you deserve to be in a relationship where you have incredible sex no matter how long you’ve been married or how old you are.
Women’s bodies are not difficult. We have learned this narrative of sexuality that says men are simple and women are complex. That men orgasm easily and quickly and sure, women have multiple orgasms but it takes them forever and they are too much of an effort. Both men and women internalize and perpetuate these narratives. The truth, though, is that BOTH men and women are complex. Women’s bodies are endlessly beautiful and fascinating. Sometimes she likes a certain touch that other times she hates. If you touch her gently or slowly or specifically enough, she can have multiple orgasms, internal orgasms, all kinds of orgasms. If you take the time to learn her. To understand her. Women are raised to believe that we are too much effort to understand. So we often shut down and don’t explain at all. Sometimes we don't even learn it ourselves. But it only seems like “too much effort” because of our simplified view of male sexuality. Most men can have an orgasm and ejaculate quickly, sure. But men can also have multiple orgasms. Men can separate their orgasms from ejaculation. Men don’t ever have to ejaculate during sex. Men can have nipple orgasms and full body orgasms and anal orgasms. Men can have orgasms from their prostate that change their lives. Men can learn to embody themselves in such a way that their very touch on a woman’s body will make her tingle all over. Male and female sexuality are both complex. But they are complex like the flavors in the most delicious meal you have ever eaten. It’s like, we’re eating straight sugar instead of an 18-course meal completed with a 5-tiered chocolate toffee butterscotch rum cake. Our societal narrative around sex is this simplified view of male sexuality. And as a result, people don’t understand their own bodies, they spend less time in bed, they pretend they like things that they don’t, and they aren’t satisfied during sex. Let’s change that. www.demetranyx.com ***gender is fluid and not all relationships are heterosexual and using the terms “men” and “women” is not intended to be absolute by any means.
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GUESS WHAT!! I have a podcast!! I’ll be talking about what women want from men, how you can bring your sex life to its fullest potential, and how masculinity is shifting in modern times. You can listen to the trailer and subscribe on both iTunes and Spotify - regular episodes will launch early next year 😍😍❤️
I’ve been noticing a lot lately how sexual energy relates to lifting weights. In the gym, some people naturally start out stronger than others. You learn how to get stronger. Someone teaches you how. And you build up a base of strength. The way you do this is consistency. If you go to the gym 3x/week for 6 months, and then stop completely for months, you’ll still be stronger the next time you go than you were before you ever started going. But if you just go 3x/week for 2 weeks, and then stop going, you might have gotten a bit stronger, but it won’t last. You’ll go back to how you were before you started. Sexual practices are like this. Building that base of consistency matters. You must learn how - it’s a skill that requires cultivating. You might have great results from a few practices, but you have to keep doing them - at first - to keep the results. Then you build up a base, and your body learns. And you need to do less practices to maintain the awesome results. If you want to stay at your strongest (or last the longest, or be the most orgasmic), you have to regularly practice. Know how the first week back at the gym is always the hardest? It’s the same with breathwork and sexual energy practices. There can be huge resistance to them, and it can feel tough to drop in and connect. But once you do, and once you get in the rhythm of including them in your life.. everything shifts. Everything.
I ask men a lot why they want to have better sex, why they want to be better lovers. The first answers vary. But no matter what those answers are, I always end up hearing: “It also feels like it would just free up more space in my head, I would have more energy to focus on other things.” And that is true. Put another way, this means that if your sex life is not as great as it could be, then the rest of your life is the same. This is true for all people, not just men. Our sexual energy is our creative energy. It is our fuel, our aliveness, the spark that makes us have energy to do things and to adore life. It gives us the energy to create the life we desire. The laughter and the freedom and the ability to celebrate the life we have. Having great sex - and this can be self-pleasure, not just with a partner - is the key to being filled up by life. You deserve a ton more pleasure. And you deserve to learn how to have it. VENTURE - a 5-session package for men to uplevel their sex lives - closes for registration tomorrow at 11:59 pm EST. There is one spot left. Message me for more details. ps - a package for women is launching tomorrow!!