Demetra Nyx
Demetra Nyx
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Hey, I’m Demetra.

I’m a sex coach and storyteller. People come to me to learn how to have mind-blowing orgasms, become incredible in bed, and have fulfilling relationships…

… and they leave feeling confident and free to express the truth of who they really are (plus, all of the above!).

 

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my mother is water I feel her cool hands running across my forehead I see her putting notes every single day in my lunchbox I taste her lemon potatoes and rack of lamb I feel us hugging as tears pour down our faces my mother is air I am enveloped in her perfume, the scent that makes me feel loved I see her coming into the house after a run, pouring sweat and asking for a glass of ice water I see her cutting sandwiches in diagonal slices I feel her doing my hair every morning my mother is fire I hear her fiercely defending my siblings and me without question I see her marching into the principal’s office I see her in hospitals, fighting for my brother I see her handwriting tattooed on my arm I hear her say it: baby, I hope you dance my mother is earth I feel rooted knowing she is rooting for me I feel her holding me as she teaches me to read I see her communicating best through writing, teaching me the same I hear her admiration I watch her adapting to the elements I feel her body in mine my mother is the universe I feel myself make her expressions I hear her voice when I speak I hear her laughing at herself I hear her laughing at me I hear her laughing at life I feel the value of silliness embedded in my bones I feel like a continuation of my mother and my grandmother and I imagine, the women before them My grandmother is gone but she is in me every day, every time I tell a story, cut up a kiwi, consider the weather, hear a certain song. I do not just feel she is with me, I feel that she is in me - that somehow, we are all each other I’ve spent a lot of time the past few years going through so many of my childhood wounds, the things we all carry from our parents no matter how wonderful they are And I just want to let you know that my mother is incredible, and that I could not exist even now without her. I love you, @karenpyros. Happy early Mother’s Day - I wrote this on the plane just now and couldn’t wait ❤️
I am super tired of judging myself. There is this thing that happens when we become so into self-examination. We do all of the workshops and all of the things. We learn about all of our wounding and how to take responsibility for our needs. And all of that is essential, and amazing - but then sometimes it continues. Every choice throughout every day becomes a constant curiosity - how am I getting in my own way? Am I being lazy? Should I eat this? Am I taking care of myself? Does it mean there’s something I have to heal if I don’t like this person or this group? Am I spending too much time on the internet? How was this interaction my fault? Am I not healed enough if this makes me angry? And sometimes, my friends.... Sometimes that is fucking exhausting. It’s kind of like gaslighting ourselves. I spend a lot of my time wondering if my opinions on certain subjects are good enough or valid enough to share. I spend a lot of time questioning the validity of my own feelings. Oh, not every day - but sometimes. Mostly, I spend a lot of energy feeling like I should be examining all of my choices instead of trusting myself and giving myself permission to do whatever the fuck I want. I am releasing something in two weeks that is the biggest thing I have ever done. It is a huge step for me in realizing what in me wants to be released into the world underneath all of that judgement. I do not want to judge myself anymore; I do not want to hold back anymore (lolll if you thought I wasn’t already, there’s more to come!!!) But really - this is my message to myself, and to you too. If you’ve spent a lot of time learning about yourself... sometimes you can just relax and be allowed to just exist - flaws and all ❤️❤️❤️ . . (photo: my face after licking the salt flats 🥴) & ps, I also have a Capricorn moon, soo......
Everybody has been lying to you They have been pretending they have life figured out. They have been pretending that they do not have pain, that their pain does not bother them They’ve been pretending they like their jobs They have been pretending that they know what god is. They have been pretending that religion and adherence to its books hasn’t caused a fucked up way of relating to the world and to people and women. They have been pretending that society is fine, that it’s functioning well. They’ve been pretending the planet is not warming and that the environment will be okay. They’ve been pretending that they do not have desires, that some deep part of them does not long for wildness. They’ve been pretending that our bodies don’t belong to us. That we need to look a certain way, and act in certain ways, to belong. That our bodies in their natural form are wrong. They’ve been pretending that human beings were not designed for pleasure, for connection with nature, for time spent purely being. They have been pretending so much...because they’re afraid of what it would mean if they dropped their guards and did not pretend any longer. It would turn their worlds upside down. Some do not even know they still are. You do not have to pretend any longer. In fact, the world and probably the existence of humanity depends on you not pretending any longer. Speak your truth. Give yourself pleasure and give yourself power. Claim your unbrokenness. And scream it from the fucking rooftops
I love you. Thank you for making me breakfast and dinner every morning and every night. Thank you for listening to all of my philosophical rants. Thank you for loving nature and for wanting to get up at 3 am to see the stars and the moon and the sunrise. Thank you for telling me I’m beautiful when I cry. Thank you for being my endless steady support. Thank you for being able to hold me. And thank you for being the most fun travel companion and my best friend ever. @tbaloh ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’VE ANSWERED ALL YOUR QUESTIONS!!! (except for the weird ones like “will you have sex with me” etc)😂 . I’ve listed the questions (both here and in the show notes) so you can either listen to the entire thing or go to a specific question. Find the podcast by searching "Sex, Love, & Power with Demetra Nyx" on iTunes or Spotify ❤️ . . 3:50 – How do you avoid feeling suffocated when everyone around you is supportive of things that are against what you believe in? 10:07 – I don’t feel satisfied when I masturbate anymore, am I doing it too often? How can I make it better? 15:50 – What creative things can me and my partner do if sex is physically painful for me? 24:45 – Is anal sex actually pleasurable for women? 26:33 – What makes sex best? 27:44 – Is there anything wrong if my love can only come when he does it himself? 31:42 – Tips for orgasming vaginally? 40:42 – I can only orgasm when stimulating my clit myself, how do I change this? 46:03 – How can I deepen into pleasure and hold it without releasing it too quickly? 51:03 – Can you talk about womb healing? 1:02:33 – Tips for an inconsistent period and low libido? 1:14:12 – Do you have sex on your period? 1:16:07 – Is it really true that everyone is capable of multiple orgasms? 1:19:23 – I hardly feel any pleasure from sex. It’s hot that he’s inside me, but I feel nothing 1:22:20 – Can you talk about the concept of virginity? 1:26:28 – I’m a closet gay and a closet female. How can I come out? 1:31:19 – What do I do if I can only have sex for 5 minutes and then I come? 1:32:50 – Why can’t my girlfriend orgasm? xoxo
Some people go to nature to become it, to touch their bodies to the body of the planet, to find out who they are when they merge with it. They have conversations: what have you seen, mountains? Flower, what do you want to share? Hello, hello, thank you, hello. They fill their bodies up with the energy of a place, and they share their tremendous love, excitement, and grief with it. They notice how their bones are like a branch and their hair is like the wind. They notice that this is how they evolved, to be in relationship with this. They bow down to it: what gives life, and what can destroy, all at the same time. Just like humans. They say, you are everything to me. You are me, in a bigger form. We are the planet having an orgasm. And some people... well, some people visit nature just to look at it